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 I often have people tell me “I don’t know how you do it. I couldn’t do what you do.” That is just simply hilarious to me. because i have been perfectly prepared through out my life to be able to do what it is that i do, All that it is I have to do….Mothering my family, photography, writing, adventuring…… I through out my life have gone through some serious trials or challenges. Sickness at a young age, being poor, marrying an undiagnosed ADHD husband with an anxiety disorder. (we got through that one simply because we didn’t give up on each other. We almost got a divorce a few times but we made it through) But now i am able to look back and see just how well my Heavenly Father gave me the exact trials i needed up til now to be able to be the best me i can be right now.  As long as i am learning from each challenge I am growing into a better me every single day.

Other people weren’t given those specific challenges that prepared me to be the kind of mother i am to my kids, the kind of wife i am to my husband, the kind of daughter and sister i am to my family, and the kind of friend i am to those entering into my world. So THEY COULDN’T do what it is that i do and they aren’t expected to. I was prepared for my lot and YOU have been prepared for yours.

That is pretty intense when you think about it. Take some time thinking about challenge and good times the have truly transformed you into the you you are today. Now think about how those challenges have prepared you for the ones you are going through today. CRAZY RIGHT??!!

I was reading an article one time about a great heart surgeon. He was ready to give up his ground breaking work when he lost 3 young kids in one little family after trying to save each of them at different times. He was so disheartened and destroyed emotionally by this that he threw himself on the floor of his living room and sobbed all might vowing to never operate again because his heart couldn’t take it. After a day of this his wife asked him this, Are you done? OK, good. Now get up and go back to your work. (This is the wisest thing i have ever heard in my life) If you give up…..Others will have to suffer learning the things you have learned so far.

AMAZING RIGHT??!! Basically she was saying, Look, yes, you have gone through SOOOOO much,  BUT you have learned so very much along the way. Now you continue and teach others as you go, so they don’t have to suffer as YOU did. BRILLIANT!!!!! (you should go back and read that again….I read it like 10 times the first time i read the article. let it really sink in) it’s almost Christ like isn’t it? Your trials, your challenges had a purpose. You learned from them and grew into a better person. Now you have the ability to help others as they go through similar challenges or trials.

How much of our day is spent in another persons world. When you really think about it, we each live in our own world basically our own reality show. Everything happening to me is happening in my world. If i come into contact with other people we are entering each others worlds but only for a period of time. The thing is only my world is ultimately unknown to most of the other people out there in the world. I was thinking the other day wouldn’t it be great if there was some invisible video camera that wondered around behind us our entire life and made a movie. Then at different periods throughout our lives we were given our reality show to watch with who ever we wish. Maybe every 25 years you have a gathering on your birthday and have the premier of your world. THEN we could have the opportunity to take a good hard attentive look at how we have been living our lives and see where we need to make changes, or learn from past mistakes and trials or just remember the good times.

I guess maybe that is why the world might be so very in love with social media. We as natural human beings have a uncontious desire to have validation to our lives. WE for some reason need to know that we are going through things for a reason. Let me ask you a question……What percentage of your anger moments are because you aren’t being or feeling validated, That there is a purpose for the things that you do.

Example, How many fights have you had with your significant other just simply because you felt misunderstood or unappreciated? How many of those arguments were because the other person felt that way? I am betting that at least 75% of them were because the root cause was simply the you or the other person wasn’t feeling VALIDATED. What that means to me is that we as a society need to spend more time looking up and noticing the other worlds around us. WE need to realize that there world is different then ours and we really don’t understand it because each world or person is so completely unique in more ways than we could ever possible comprehend.

Now my ultimate point is this….We are each living in our own reality show. The only problem is that no one else really understands it the way that you do be cause they haven’t been there watching your entire life..every single moment..that is what it would take for them to TRULLY understand YOUR WORLD. If we would just stop trying to get others to fit into our reality and realize they are just living theirs the best they can than maybe we could stop judging each and try to meat in the middle because it that is really the only thing that makes sense.

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Elizabeth Jeffries: Posted on Monday, January 25, 2016 9:33 AM
So I had a realization this morning as I was getting the kids ready for school. I why do we as a population watch tv or spend so much time watching other worlds. Basically that is what we are doing isn’t it? We are continuously taking our thoughts out of our own reality and watching another reality that some one some where has just made up.

Now I know what you’re thinking, what about reality shows or Vlogs or stuff like that? Well, it is still some one else’s world you are watching. I had all these thoughts while watching the kids eat their morning cereal and drinking smoothies staring like zombies at the TV watching Sid the Science Kid’s Planetarium movie. It was an educational show and they were eating a healthy breakfast, yet they are just sitting there staring. What good is it actually doing them? I know you could say they are learning something and getting fuel for their school day by eating but why do i have to turn on tv to do all that. I don’t obviously.

But I am anything, I am a realist……Mornings Suck!! I have Lupus so I need as much sleep as possible. My reality is that I get NO sleep what soever. Some one is almost always awake in this house keeping me up. very frustrating. So I am ALWAYS tired. I couldn’t concur up a coherent thought to save my life until at least 8am when forced to and 10am on a “mommy day off day”. The bad part is that they are up by 6am. THAT SUCKS!!  And daddy works 3rd shift at the hospital so it’s all on me. Boo!

Anyway, my point is that i could have the tv off because honestly, i just need them to get ready for school and not be quiet. I can’t handle crazy very well in the morning and it is hit or miss with our family. You just never know how they are gonna wake up in the morning. So Tv or iPads are kinda a saving grace for me. but then they don’t pay attention to getting ready. So it’s kind of a double edged sword.

Back to my main point. How much of our day is spent in another persons world. When you really think about it, we each live in our own world basically our own reality show. Everything happening to me is happening in my world. If i come into contact with other people we are entering each others worlds but only for a period of time. The thing is only my world is ultimately unknown to most of the other people out there in the world. I was thinking the other day wouldn’t it be great if there was some invisible video camera that wondered around behind us our entire life and made a movie. Then at different periods throughout our lives we were given our reality show to watch with who ever we wish. Maybe every 25 years you have a gathering on your birthday and have the premier of your world. THEN we could have the opportunity to take a good hard attentive look at how we have been living our lives and see where we need to make changes, or learn from past mistakes and trials or just remember the good times.

I guess maybe that is why the world might be so very in love with social media. We as natural human beings have a uncontious desire to have validation to our lives. WE for some reason need to know that we are going through things for a reason. Let me ask you a question……What percentage of your anger moments are because you aren’t being or feeling validated, That there is a purpose for the things that you do.

Example, How many fights have you had with your significant other just simply because you felt misunderstood or unappreciated? How many of those arguments were because the other person felt that way? I am betting that at least 75% of them were because the root cause was simply the you or the other person wasn’t feeling VALIDATED. What that means to me is that we as a society need to spend more time looking up and noticing the other worlds around us. WE need to realize that there world is different then ours and we really don’t understand it because each world or person is so completely unique in more ways than we could ever possible comprehend.

Let me explain. I often have people tell me “I don’t know how you do it. I couldn’t do what you do.” That is just simply hilarious to me. because i have been perfectly prepared through out my life to be able to do what it is that i do, All that it is I have to do….Mothering my family, photography, writing, adventuring…… I through out my life have gone through some serious trials or challenges. Sickness at a young age, being poor, marrying an undiagnosed ADHD husband with an anxiety disorder. (we got through that one simply because we didn’t give up on each other. We almost got a divorce a few times but we made it through) But now i am able to look back and see just how well my Heavenly Father gave me the exact trials i needed up til now to be able to be the best me i can be right now.  As long as i am learning from each challenge I am growing into a better me every single day.

Other people weren’t given those specific challenges that prepared me to be the kind of mother i am to my kids, the kind of wife i am to my husband, the kind of daughter and sister i am to my family, and the kind of friend i am to those entering into my world. So THEY COULDN’T do what it is that i do and they aren’t expected to. I was prepared for my lot and YOU have been prepared for yours.

That is pretty intense when you think about it. Take some time thinking about challenge and good times the have truly transformed you into the you you are today. Now think about how those challenges have prepared you for the ones you are going through today. CRAZY RIGHT??!!

Now my ultimate point is this….We are each living in our own reality show. The only problem is that no one else really understands it the way that you do be cause they haven’t been there watching your entire life..every single moment..that is what it would take for them to TRULLY understand YOUR WORLD. If we would just stop trying to get others to fit into our reality and realize they are just living theirs the best they can than maybe we could stop judging each and try to meat in the middle because it that is really the only thing that makes sense.

I was reading an article one time about a great heart surgeon. He was ready to give up his ground breaking work when he lost 3 young kids in one little family after trying to save each of them at different times. He was so disheartened and destroyed emotionally by this that he threw himself on the floor of his living room and sobbed all might vowing to never operate again because his heart couldn’t take it. After a day of this his wife asked him this, Are you done? OK, good. Now get up and go back to your work. (This is the wisest thing i have ever heard in my life) If you give up…..Others will have to suffer learning the things you have learned so far.

AMAZING RIGHT??!! Basically she was saying, Look, yes, you have gone through SOOOOO much but you have learned so very much along the way. Now you continue and teach others as you go so they don’t have to suffer as you did. BRILLIANT!!!!! (you should go back and read that again….I read it like 10 times the first time i read the article. let it really sink in)

So, We all need to remember that our world isn’t the only one out there. And we are giving permission to those around us to intertwine our realities when we encounter others. After all our worlds are combining, for a time, when we are together.
Weather it is a crowd or one other person it gets interesting, and we are effecting others worlds without even realizing it most of the time.

I personally am gonna try to work on living an attentive life and remember that i am effecting my reality and others around me as i go. I am gonna try to stop CHANGING their worlds because i really have no right to do that. But I do have the right to try and make our worlds “work” together.  I can effect people for the good or the worse. It is ultimately my choice.

I have every right to try and get them to see where i am coming from and that my thoughts are perfectly ok because they are mine. And Yours are ok because they are yours. They are coming from a truly unique place and my job is to try and Understand where you are coming from. WE are a world of unique individuals thing to either all be alike or break the mold and be completely different or an original. Thats what we ARE. A great big world full of unique people having unique experiences that we don’t even know about. So lets take the time to learn from each other so we don’t have to suffer as our teacher has. (When I say teacher i mean all of us are the teacher because we have the opportunity to help others not suffer as we have. basically when you go through a trial it has a purpose. It is not just for you to grow but to help others grow in the future. That is awesome when you think about is. You can help the world in a way no one else living or dead can because there has never and will never be another human exactly like you. not even an identical twin can the exact same experiences you can.)

WE all need to feel validated and that what we are doing has a purpose or else it  all seems so pointless. So why not spend more time listening and sharing our experiences and trying to understand the individuality of those in our lives so that we can understanding what unique things make that person them. WE can learn amazing things from each other is we only take the time to understand instead of argue.

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metal raf on Wednesday, October 12, 2016 4:48 AM
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