So after keeping Hunter home from Preschool for the last 2 weeks I have seen great improvement in his over all behavior. His melt downs are down to one a day where they were at 8 to 10 mild ones lasting about 20 to 30 minuets and 2 to 3 crazy melt downs a day lasting about 2 hours.
These melt downs where happening both at school and at home and have been going on for about 2 months. I finally said enough is enough. It had become clear to me thru prayer and observation that the poor kid needed a break. He had lost all control of his life and needed a safe environment to be "himself" for awhile. He had gotten lost in autism land and had no way of coming out of it. When I made the decision to bring him home for now I gave it a time limit. I gave it a week and said we as his parents would revisit school ideas then.
It only took a day to see results. His out burst where decreased and his vocal expression got better. He had also just started a medication for anxiety. The lowest dose and half of that. You could almost instantly see a relief in him. He had a lot of autistic stuff going on the first week but he was also free to allow it to happen and try and learn how to take control of how his body reacts to environmental stimulants.
It was truly an amazing thing to see happen. He went from violent outburst of uncontrollable anger and flailing. Several times I had to just go get him at school He kept telling me he hates school. To helping me set up every morning for circle time in the living room. He knows his schedual and loves it. He is able to have a say in what we are learning about. The schedual is very flexible but set up in 30 min increments.
He is really doing well. I had a meeting with all of the people involved with Hunter and let them know that the plan for now is to keep Hunter home until the week after Spring Break and then start back at half days. That cuts out the anxiety of nap time and the afternoon bus which are both huge triggers for him.
Anyway, it all boils down to the anger vs anxiety or Anxiety = Anger. And when you are in a constant state of fight or flight (as Hunter was) the anger and the violent behavior comes as a result of that fear. I wouldn't want to live like that so I'm not gonna force my aspergers kid to go thru it. At least not right now.